The way someone can convince you that you’re the problem is so real, and it often starts with parents. I was fortunate because mine are great, but that’s not the case for everyone. A lot of people grow up believing they’re the reason for everything bad, that nothing good comes from them, and that they’re more of a liability than anything. It’s unfair because having a child is a choice rooted in our own desires. So we should treat children with that awareness. We chose life for them, and they deserve to feel wanted, cared for, and valued simply because that’s why they’re here in the first place.
“It’s unfair because having a child is a choice rooted in our own desires.” That hits deep and is so true. I know for my own mother, who didn’t really want a child at the age of 20, she didn’t believe she had that choice in the 70s (due to culture & family). But she sure didn’t need to spend my entire childhood making sure I knew that 🤦🏼♀️🤪
She definitely didn’t, but remember this is her first time living too. She was misdirecting her frustration, and she needed help seeing that it wasn’t you she should be frustrated with. It was whatever made her choose to have you at a time she wasn’t ready. I do hope you guys now see eye to eye if not at least forgiven her for her ignorance.
The way someone can convince you that you’re the problem is so real, and it often starts with parents. I was fortunate because mine are great, but that’s not the case for everyone. A lot of people grow up believing they’re the reason for everything bad, that nothing good comes from them, and that they’re more of a liability than anything. It’s unfair because having a child is a choice rooted in our own desires. So we should treat children with that awareness. We chose life for them, and they deserve to feel wanted, cared for, and valued simply because that’s why they’re here in the first place.
“It’s unfair because having a child is a choice rooted in our own desires.” That hits deep and is so true. I know for my own mother, who didn’t really want a child at the age of 20, she didn’t believe she had that choice in the 70s (due to culture & family). But she sure didn’t need to spend my entire childhood making sure I knew that 🤦🏼♀️🤪
She definitely didn’t, but remember this is her first time living too. She was misdirecting her frustration, and she needed help seeing that it wasn’t you she should be frustrated with. It was whatever made her choose to have you at a time she wasn’t ready. I do hope you guys now see eye to eye if not at least forgiven her for her ignorance.